Thursday, December 15, 2011

Enjoying It While It Lasts

You know how, when ever you are in a stage of life that others - friends, family, and strangers alike - have been through before, they feel the need to offer unsolicited advice?  Like when you're planning your wedding and everyone has an opinion about how things should be done.  Or when you're pregnant and  get trapped in an elevator with a chatty elderly woman who tells you to "sleep when the baby sleeps." My particular "favourite" piece of advice is, "Enjoy it while it lasts."  This piece advice is one-size fits all.  It can be used in any situation and on any occasion, and it is just pessimistic enough to make the most blissfully unaware among us sit up and take notice.

Though I have a certain amount of disdain for this piece of advice delivered in this fashion, and I try not to dole it out myself, I have to admit, it is a well-used saying for a reason.  I squandered many a precious moment of Lilah's babyhood stressing myself out over details that I barely remember now, and that I won't remember at all years down the road.

It does get a lot easier not to sweat the small stuff with a couple of years of parenting under one's belt.  And at this time of year, especially, I aim to do a lot more enjoying and a little less stressing.  Lilah has gone through some absolutely lovely phases in her lifetime, and at almost two-and-a-half, there are some difficult moments, but there are many more beautiful, perfect moments that I want to savour. Here are just a few of the things that I am "enjoying while they last":

  • Helping - Helping Daddy make lasagne, helping Mommy vacuum, helping to unload the dishwasher, helping bake cookies... girl loves to help!  Of course, Lilah "helping" means everything takes at least double the amount of time it normally would, but we definitely would not want to discourage the urge to help at this early stage!
  • Cleaning up - similar to the above, Lilah can easily be convinced to clean up her toys, especially with the aid of the "clean up" song.  I'm working on teaching her the other verse of the song, but for now, we hear "Clean up, clean up, everybody do your share" over and over.  And over.  For as long as it takes for all the toys to get cleaned.
  • Mama's girl - This is gradually changing.  Until recently, I was her go-to person for everything.  But now she is learning who to turn to with a particular request.  But I am still her number one when she needs comfort.
  • Hugs and kisses - These are doled out on request.  And sometimes even spontaneously, when I'm lucky.
  • Honesty - Girl hasn't quite figured out the subtle art of lying.  Manipulation yes, but lying, not so much.  She's like Jim Carrey in "Liar, Liar."  Ask her a direct question, and she is bound to the truth.

All of these two-year-old traits?  I'll take 'em.  And enjoy them while they last.

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  1. How true. You have such a positive take on life. And Lilah is so cute in her little 2year old ways.

  2. All so true! We spend so much time complaining about the terrible twos, we sometimes forget that it's also an age full of milestones, and traits that we miss when they get older!

  3. Beautiful photo of Ms. Lilah.
    Right now when I give Jack a smooch he says, "Mommy, I love kisses." I know that won't last forever so I am taking all the smooches I can while I can.

  4. So true. I know these are supposed to be terrible twos but we are in a major groove of amazingness right now. May it never end... opp, better enjoy it while it lasts. *sigh*

  5. She's such a sweet little girl. She's a reflection of how a great mama you've been to her. And thanks for reminding me to embrace the TT stage and look at the positives :)

  6. I am trying to enjoy these very moments while they last too! Especially the kisses!

  7. Gotta look at everything in a positive light and moreso on the difficult days.

    Lilah is a sweetheart. Maybe I'll get to meet her in person one day.

    Savouring my own moments with a 3 yr old right now.

  8. As always, you are very insightful and great at taking in the moment. I think you do a wonderful job of enjoying it all.
    Right now, I love George's language. Each day Brings out new words and phrases. Today he held out his empty bowl and said "finished me!"
    I love his utter lack of self consciousness as he dances with every cell in his body. Right now, he is singing to himself while fishing out cars from the toy box.
    It's a difficult phase with lots of stand offs and tantrums and complete meltdowns (on all sides) but I love my little 2 1/2 year old little whirlwind!!
    Thanks for making me take it in!

  9. I agree! That's such annoying advice to hear...and it's so true, too! It sounds like you have a lot to enjoy these days. I know I enjoy having my three-year-old help me sweep the kitchen floor (she's so cute with her pint-sized broom), but I think I'll enjoy it when it's over, too. :)

  10. This is great. I keep telling Ari that he has to stay three forever. He keeps saying he wants to be big. I think he's going to win!


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